I get a lot of questions from women who are nervous about mediation because they don’t know what to expect. I understand that wanting to avoid your ex may be the reason for your anxiety, but don’t let the actual process stress you out. If you’re prepared you’ll get through it, and hopefully walk away with an agreement that will get you closer to moving on with your own fabulous life. Here’s some basic info to help you prepare and calm your nerves: 1) Mediation is not meant to be adversarial. It is supposed to be collaborative. The purpose of mediation is to encourage…
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Mediation – What to Expect
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7 Tips for Dealing with a Difficult Ex
Divorce can bring out the absolute worst in people! Calm people become agitated, kind people become irate, and happy people become depressed. It’s hard to fathom that someone you were once in love with and committed your life to has morphed into someone you don’t know at all and is so difficult to talk with. The problem is that to finalize a divorce and co-parent your children if you have them, you need to communicate, and often! I was shocked to find out that my ex could get so angry at me and be so mean to me. At first, I fought back…
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8 tips for comforting your children during and after divorce
Most feelings associated with divorce are overwhelmingly negative, and sometimes we are so consumed with emotion that we forget our children are experiencing these powerful feelings too. They may feel a sense of loss, anger, anxiety, and uncertainty. They may also be confused, and they may blame themselves. If you want to help your children cope with their feelings and adjust to their new reality with less pain, consider the following tips. 1) When you explain the situation, keep it simple and be direct. There is no need for a long, drawn-out story or details about why the marriage didn’t work.…